Homework stinks!! As a parent, I have had to deal with homework issues on both sides of the spectrum.
Samantha is a perfectionist and agonizes over every assignment. She toils endlessly and is never 100% satisfied. Frustration and stress creep in when she is overwhelmed. Time is her enemy, because she cannot be hurried. She will take every second that she is given and do more or do better. She lacks confidence and is afraid of failure. Failure is a B in her mind. If she gets a 93 and her friend gets a 97, she feels as if she is "not as smart or that all of her friends are smarter than her". In my book, an A is an A. I worry about Sam, because the stress is not worth it. I also miss her because she spends too much time doing homework.
Noah is a completely different story. He (like Sam) has all the natural intelligience that one could hope for. Motivation and desire is completely lacking!! Approval is never seeked and rewards are seldom worth his effort. Time is my enemy rather than his. It takes every amount of energy and effort I can muster to keep him on task. Other projects and his siblings are put to the side, as we engage in battle. He frequently blurts out, gets up for drinks or snacks, and screams at me (or anyone else that makes a peep or causes a distraction). To say that I am at my wits end would be an understatement. In shame, I thought about hitting the delete button but when it comes to homework this is our reality. Please Pray!!! Pray for Noah to do what is right! Pray for me to be firm while maintaining patience and kindness. Pray for wisdom in handling this situation.
Okay, I must sound like the worst overwhelmed mom out there. Perhaps, I am! I know that I love my four kids with my whole heart and I would do anything for them. Watching them make poor choices is heartbreaking. My reaction to their choices has at times been shameful. I need to maintain an attitude pleasing to God. Dear Jesus, help me be a better mom and give me the wisdom I need. Amen.
1 comment:
Christy, I am late on reading blogs, since I am busy with kids! You are the best mom you can be, period. It is hurtful when our children make poor choices, trust me I know from experience. All you can do is what you can do, continue to pray to God and leave the rest to the kids. I pray every morning: please let me be the best Mommy, Wife, Babysitter and let me get thru the day! You do what you can and at Sam's age that is pretty much all you can do. Noah, well he sounds like he needs you more and your awesome for giving all you can. Don't be so hard on yourself, I know that is hard to do! Did you read my post on Mean Mom's? Or Did You Ever Have One of Those Days? Pop over when you can and read those, trust me you are not alone in this, even though I am sure you feel alone! :)
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